Monday, August 27, 2012

Talk about Motherhood

I gave a talk in church yesterday.  I was super nervous and I am sure everyone could tell.  I am just happy that I got up there and did it in the first place.  I had a hard time sleeping because I kept thinking about it.  I even had a dream where I was giving the talk and I was late, I wasn't dressed in church clothes, and I couldn't find my talk.  It was scary.  I think part of the reason I was asked to give this talk was so that I could prove to myself that I could do it.  What a coincidence that I got asked to give a talk just days after I started dealing with major anxiety issues.

Anyway, my talk was about being a wife, mother and still yourself.  This is something that I really believe in, even more now that I gave a talk on it.  I think that it is so easy to loose yourself while raising your kids.  It is important that we understand that we are important regardless of our children.  I also talked about how your ability to help your children is not so great when you don't take care of yourself.  Mom needs a break every once in a while!

I saw on the news the other day that a mom went on vacation for a week when her baby was only 10 weeks old.  I personally don't think that is a big deal but I was shocked that people were being so mean to this mom.  People were really bashing her, saying that she isn't a good mom and things like that.  Being a mom is soooo hard and I really don't think we need to judge each other.

I am happy that I get to be a mom.  It is a great blessing.  Although there are days that I wish I could just not be a mom for a day or two and then jump back into it after my break. I guess that is one hard part of motherhood.  Once a mom, you are always a mom.  Even when on vacation or on a date Bob and I just talk about the kids to each other.

Ok, enough rambling from me.  Any thoughts on the subject?

5 comments:

Wendy Sice said...

I'm just so glad you were able to get up and give your talk - that's great progress. :)

I'm not exceptional at being a mother, but I am so grateful that I have a good boy, who generally does the right thing. I am also glad that we are close and can have a good laugh together and a good heart-to- heart when needed. Love that kid! :)

Gayle Daly said...

Doranda, You gave a great talk. Your words were very realistic and honest. It is so important to be a complete person before we start deviding ourselves between children & husbands. You have a very healthy attitude and I am very glad to see you taking care of yourself. You go Girl!!!!

DerrK said...

I agree with Gayle. I think you do an awesome job as a wife, mother and still take time for you. I could tell you were a little nervous, but nonetheless it was a good talk!

Linda said...

Great job on your talk, Doranda!

It is so hard to be a mother, especially of young children. I remember those days so well, and they have come back with my daughter and her 2 kids here.

You're doing great, anxiety and all-keep your chin up and hopefully life will get better for you soon. :-}

Rika Owens said...

I totally agree, I think it's really important to still have the balance of knowing who you are, especially in Christ, and knowing that you are still a mother and wife and can succeed at all of those. That is something I struggled with the first few years of my son's life because I becamea mother at 20. I was still in college and not married. Thank the lord years down the road, my son's father and I married, which I LOVE AND ADORE that man! and i'm so happy to be a mom, but because I was going through college and my "young years" I struggled. Once I began to know who I was in Christ, I relaxed and eased into being them all which included keeping myself up more, taking care of ME and not feeling guilty about it, but as I said before, there's a balance!

Thank You for sharing this, I think it's really important!

p.s. I just found your blog and I love it here! thank you for sharing your life! :)